You Can Catch More Flies With Honey!

I read about a woman who had recently moved to a small town. She had to go into a local drugstore and was absolutely appalled by the way she was treated. The pharmacist, who was also the store's owner, was much too slow, she didn't like the attitude of the clerk, and there were several other problems that frankly ticked her off.
Later that afternoon, she began to complain to her next-door neighbor about the service she had received in the pharmacy.
The neighbor seemed to be concerned and said, "Listen...I know Tom, the pharmacist, really well. Maybe I should talk to him for you."
The woman said "I wish you would!"
A few days later, she had cause to go into the little drugstore again, and this time everything was totally different. The pharmacist was pleasant and efficient, the clerk--who was his wife--was friendly and helpful, and it was a complete contrast to her first visit to the store.
When she got back home she called the neighbor and told her what had happened. "I guess you talked to him, just like you said you would."
"I sure did."
"And you really let him have it, huh--told him how unhappy I had been?"
There was a brief pause on the other end of the line. "Well...no...no exactly."
"Well, what did you tell him?"
"I told him you were absolutely delighted by the service he gave you. I told him that you loved his little store, and you planned to be a regular customer."
Well, I'm not sure if the story is true, but I know that the point it illustrates is true. Positive tactics work much better than negative tactics when it comes to changing behavior.

Keep it Positive--Kevin

Taken from "Sex Begins in the Kitchen" by Dr Kevin Leman-Revell a division of Baker Publishing Group

EARLY MEMORIES

When I begin analyzing a patient's life-style, one of the first questions I ask is,"What is your earliest childhood memory?" It is amazing how often the first memory can give insight into a person's overall lifestyle. That first memory, selected from among hundreds of other early incidents, is an excellent indicator of how we look at life. Whereas there are thousands of incidents that happen to all of us in our earliest years, we tend to remember most clearly those that are consistent with how we see ourselves in relationship to others!

What is your first memory? Do you remember being embarrassed and ashamed because you had done something wrong? Perhaps you had wet your pants in front of the other kids and they were laughing at you? Or do you remember your father taking you on his lap and telling you that the drawing you just made was a wonderful work of art?

There isn't a person alive who hasn't done something embarrassing at one time or another and found himself the subect of derisive laughter. And there arn't too many who haven't experienced at least a few victories. But if you center on the embarrassments and the mistakes, you may be following a life-style that leads to futher rejection and humiliation. If, on the other hand, you are a person who tends to forget the embarrassaments altogether, and focus on the times you did well and made others proud of you, your life-style will be one of healthy self-respect. And a major key toward success in life is self-respect!!

I hope this can be of help to you as you continue down life's path.--Kevin


Taken from "When Your Best Isn't Good Enough" by Dr Kevin Leman-Baker Publishing Group

HAVE a NEW KID by FRIDAY

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Have a New Kid by Friday is your 5-day action plan—Monday through Friday—that really works! I use humor along with commonsense psychology to reveal why your kids do what they do and what you can do about it—starting right now.
Anyone can do it. All it takes is you deciding to stand up and take charge. Want a great kid? Want to be a great parent? Then take the 5-day challenge. Someday your kid will thank you for it. It is available at http://www.lemanbooksandvideos.com/.

Let me know how it worked for you!!
Talk to you soon. --Kevin